Can You Be TOO Nice?
I recently read an article that talked about the dangers of being nice. Among the risks it talked about was the possibility of building up resentment, and the risk of excessive self blame. One of the downsides I see in my work is that when people work very hard to be nice that the people around them don’t get to really know them. When we try so hard to be ‘nice’ I think we censor ourselves so that people only see a part of us – the nice part. Then our relationships are limited to being superficial and it can feel like no one knows our real self. This article “The Dangers of Being Nice” is a good place to start thinking about whether or not you are being too nice.